Skip to main content

BOKETTO

 


In my quiet moments, I pause the world from its frantic pace. In that stillness, I wistfully gaze into the distance and just let things unfurl as they please. I let my thoughts flow, absorbing nothing. Internalizing nothing. And just like that, the strands of tightly woven twine untangle and the knots come loose.

Today, as usual, I found myself caught up in the hustle and bustle of daily grind. I was rushing to get things done, stressing about deadlines, and feeling overwhelmed by the sheer amount of tasks on my to-do list.

But then, I took a deliberate pause. With a deep breath, I stretched, stepped away from my desk, and walked out onto my balcony. Leaning on the railing, I looked down at the familiar lanes of my neighborhood, twirling around the corners behind the blocks of apartments. 

The park and playground stood deserted at noon amid the cluster of flowering trees and surrounded by the hedges lining the curbs. I gazed at the sky, feeling the warm sun on my face and the clouds drifting by lazily.

As I stood there, the world didn't seem so chaotic anymore. The tasks on my to-do list didn't seem so insurmountable. Calm swaddled me like a downy fleece and the sense of clarity that I hadn't felt in hours was instantly a part of me. 

Boketto is more than just a practice - it's a reminder to slow down, to breathe mindfully and to appreciate the beauty that's always surrounding me. It's a reminder that life is not just about getting things done, but about experiencing the moment in all its intricate wonder.

I recall my early childhood days when I'd catch myself startled out of my skin, sometimes snapping out of my reverie to voices calling out to me—’Dreamer’!

Proud to claim that, a dreamer I was, staring at nothing and everything at the same time. My mind wandered to places, known and cockaigne. The world outside would blur and all that remained was the gentle whir and melodies of nature.

It's a fragile thing, like porcelain china this quiescence. Easily shattered by the demands of everyday life or even a faint splinter in the hush that I crave. The beauty of Boketto is the freedom to turn one's mind into a nomad untethered by the sway of reality.

Life has a way of pulling us back, shackling us in the damp dungeons of beliefs and opinions which never truly define us, but are thrust upon us by people who are stewing in their own misery and pathos. 

Boketto for me is to let them be suspended in limbo like a sheath of dark rain clouds as long as they wish to hover. Detached, I observe them cascade relentlessly until they exhaust themselves. My silence is a stone wall on which they gravely bounce. 

My peace of mind is safely guarded. Effortlessly.

I remember the nights I'd recline on my lounge chair, a mug of hot chocolate warming my palms and gazing up at the regal showcase of stars.

The constellations. So tinsel. Twinkling lyrics composed on black velvet. The dreamer that I am, mesmerized by the muted tunes they'd thrum. That's my Boketto in its full empirical majesty, feeling the weight of the world shed like a brocade of silk.

In a state of constant overwhelm lately, with a million thoughts buzzing and zapping, I have my very own magic wand now to make it all disappear. Instantly stepping on the brakes of my haphazard, swerving thoughts, I disengage and inhale the vastness of the cosmos.

My worries, my fears, my doubts... they all are like the morning mist that settles down on a carpet of petals like dewdrops. As a sense of clarity cloaks me, I feel more centered and connected to myself. It's about experiencing the world in all its complexity and yet seeking simplicity. 

I'm so grateful for this practice. It's helped me find myself in the mayhem, and to appreciate the beauty that's always around me.

As I surrender to the allure of Boketto – the Japanese art of gazing into the distance, this act of slowing down is an invitation to simply be —a form of intense meditation, surrendering to the milky expanse of the ivory sky or the distant skyline, shoreline, even the swaying leaves on treetops

In the lull of the rolling dawn, under the watchful eyes of the sailing birds, I find this solace and comfort even as I begin my day. Seated in a lotus pose and turning my face towards the first blush of dawn, this practice immerses me with waves of gratitude and content. The world may be in a mad clutter, but in these moments of Boketto, I am grounded. I'm rooted.

Boketto is now a lifestyle. And this lifestyle is not just a sheet of tick boxes. It's an absolute game-changer! 


Reflections:

1. What are the moments in my day when I feel most rushed or overwhelmed? How can I incorporate Boketto into those moments to find calm and clarity?

2. What are the things that distract me from being present in the moment? How can I let go of those distractions and focus on the present?

3. How do I feel when I'm gazing into the distance, letting my mind wander? What thoughts or emotions arise?


Integrating Boketto into Daily Life:

1. What are some ways I can incorporate Boketto into my daily routine, such as during my morning commute or before bed?

2. How can I use Boketto to enhance my creativity, problem-solving, or critical thinking?

3. In what ways can I share the practice of Boketto with others, such as friends, family, or colleagues?

Personal Growth:

1. What have I learned about myself through the practice of Boketto? What insights have I gained?

2. How has Boketto helped me to develop greater self-awareness, self-acceptance, or self-compassion?

3. In what ways has Boketto influenced my relationships with others, helping me to become a more empathetic, understanding, or patient person?

PIC COURTESY: PINTEREST 

Comments

  1. Interesting to know. I shall explore this Japanese practice further.

    2025 Industrial Engineering Posts - Theme - Industrial Engineering Benefits the Society and Organizations.
    Second Post - Behavioral Sciences and Industrial Engineering.
    https://nraoiekc.blogspot.com/2025/04/behavioral-sciences-and-industrial.html
    #AtoZChallenge #IndustrialEngineering #Productivity #CostReduction

    ReplyDelete
  2. Boketto sounds wonderful! I love the questions you added at the end. These would help in journaling and following the practice in our daily lives.

    ReplyDelete
  3. In my retirement I allow lots of time for this Boketto action (or lack thereof). I've always liked to take pause and appreciate the world around me.

    Lee

    ReplyDelete
  4. So often trapped in small rooms and staring at small screens, stopping to look into the distance is a needed break from the normal. (a-to-z visitor)

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER

  #ButterflyEffectSpanning25Years #AllsWellThatEndsWell #DiamondsAreForever #WhereTheresAWill The pivotal phrase from “Kafka and the Doll” by Franz Kafka which says that ‘Loss isn't final but love is transformed and restored to you in ways that you never envisioned; it's all about growth and adaptation—plays a huge part in my new year.  The Franz Kafka of my life is a girl called ‘ Charrzzx’. In retrospect, this story was in all probability conceived in 2001 as a miniscule bubble, but nevertheless a significant ripple which would impact my life 25 years later in 2026.  **** Year 2001: The landmark year when I migrated to and made my base in Singapore was also a memorable one for another reason that it was my parents’ first visit to my place. The days ran into each other with visits to tourist spots and rounds of shopping sprees.  On a very fine day, Daddy and I had passed by a Giordano showroom in a mall which I would generally walk past without a second glance other...

AI 'n' I (Part 2 to DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER)

  Ok! So Babylou was so flustered after the hoodie fiasco when we arrived home, that for a couple of days she trailed behind her a chain reaction of an awfully mentally drained me–upon seeing her tireless emotional highs and lows, day in and day out. Clutching at the last straws of my already depleting sanity with the incessant grousing, I told her that I would ask AI to do a tarot card reading for the hoodie and its unfortunate pilfer ( to humor her, to close and seal this annoying chapter for good!) My ability to reason with her had explored all avenues and had horribly crashed to a naught. However, AI did a fab job ! It told me that the petty thief would soon get her karma !  How ? Pat came the 'bot'ic response. She will trip and fall face down in a puddle of muddy water... Harmless. Not a tit for tat but was enough to make me go into fits of uncontrollable laughter.  My next obvious question--- How will I know when that happens? I won't  be around to watch that ...

GOLDILOCKS: THE LOCKE MANSION

  This is a reimagined version of the popular fairy tale ' Goldilocks and the Three Bears.' This retelling is a part of the Write A Page A Day event on Blogchatter starting Feb 1 thru 28th to reach a total word count of 10K by the month end.                              CHAPTER 1                    LOCKE HAVEN ESTATE  The sky bled bruises of plum and cherry over the rolling hills. A full moon hung low against the mauve, casting silver shards through the skeletal trees. The mansion made of cold greystone loomed large beyond the rusted iron gates. It grated on the gravel, rasped on the hinges and yawned open like a predator's jaw as Goldwynn booted it open with her foot. Her sneakers squished heavily on the mulch of dead leaves. Clutching her backpack, she looked up at the towering, grim structure forebodingly.  "Are you sure you want to do this, Go...

GOLDILOCKS: THE BEWITCHED WOODS

This story is a reimagined version of the popular fairy tale 'Goldilocks And The Three Bears' and is a part of the event Write A Page A Day on Blogchatter for the month of February.                              CHAPTER 2  The trees pierced the sky like steeples, their gossamer branches blurred out high against the dusk. The luminescent creepers that entwined them pulsed like embers of bonfire in the dwindling light.  Mists thick with musk and sun-bleached pine, swirled around their trunks and veiled the forest floor in pillowy waves. The earthy smell of decaying leaves and damp moss made Goldwynn’s senses reel.  Disheveled, she scrambled to her feet, her heart racing like the devil.  The Locke mansion was nowhere to be seen – The cavern had spat her out like a bitter aftertaste. Her ears strained to hear some sign of life.  “ Where am I .. and where in the blimey is Locke Mansion...!" her...

FADED COLOURS, FRESH MEMORIES

                          RED SHOES  I still remember the happiest days of my life when Rivka all of five years was delighted beyond measure to take me home as her birthday gift. A pair of red leather shoes which she always wanted. She held me tenderly, close to her lil heart which spoke volumes. Rivka wore me to the park, playgrounds and picnics. **** Out of nowhere came that ill fated day, when I could hear horrendous screams and crowds of panic-stricken people were crammed into a truck. Rivka was howling and clinging to her mother. We arrived at a hellish place where I was brutally ripped off Rivka’s feet and thrown onto a pile of other shoes.  Rivka and the others were shoved into a windowless room and locked in. The chimneys of surrounding buildings belched out putrid smoke. I never saw her again. **** Years later, staring at the pristine room and men working in a calm manner made me relax in the cool confin...